Changing Times

I had a blind date.......there's a reason why they call it "blind" and lets just say that the physical handicap wasn't the only challenge. As much as I like men, I am committed to doing my friends no more favours and letting things flow....it just too sticky out deh..... worse of all he was clearly one of those who I could break in two without much effort......I hate a weak man. I'm a handful to deal with on a good day with a lot of lip, so I need a strong man to keep me in line. What happened to men....have their wives, girlfriends, ex-wives, ex girlfriends, mothers etc. transformed our men into socially inept beings who try to woo with money rather than personality and wit. His friend was actually a lot more mentally stimulating and could match my every innuendo while he sat there lost.....it takes all types to make this world turn I guess.

Can you believe he actually wanted a kiss goodnight? He didn't know that it took all my energy to stay put in the chair and listen to his drone...what tha ----. As is customary I have no behaviour when foolishness comes my way so I laughed and informed him that it would take a few more dates and a little more than a country run and a fish fry to make me give up a taste of me.

Hindsight is 20/20 they say and had I known that it would turn out like that, I would have said no when I was invited to " tag along" that faithful day.......... Labour day was good, I went to my old community and laboured on the primary school there for the day. In the evening a girlfriend called to say that she was heading to the country with a bredren and if I wanted to tag along. It seemed innocent enough, and I usually don't like the whole third wheel thing but I couldn't find a good reason not to go.....I figured I could entertain myself in the moments they were being friendlier than bredrens. Afterall, we were heading to Porus and my bredren wasn't too far from there. When I called my bredren he didn't answer so in true me fashion I left a message indicating what he would miss......it was a good thing too cause my friend turned up with a "date" for me so the four of us drove off into the sunset heading to a fish fry.


The drive down wasn't too bad, usually I am scared to have people I don't know drive me but this man knew how to tek the road and seemed experienced enough to handle the speed so I relaxed. The fish fry was good, the Heineken was even better and the conversation was great, when it was all four of us involved. In my mind I had decided to treat the foursome as just a "bredren an' bredren" flex so there was no pressure. We laughed we chatted, we watched as one or two youth tried to pick up girls with little finesse it was a good time until I heard we were going to Mexico.

Yep, as we wound our way to this little district in St. Catherine, and while I fought back the ill effect of said winding ( I don't travel well) I could only think that I would stick to the Mexico which required a plane trip. We eventually reached what I would call a mansion in the midst of the bushes. It was beautiful.....swimming pool, jacuzzi, fruit trees everywhere, a beautiful garden with a fountain and of course an outside Bar-B-Q, bar and grill. If it neva suh far it would have been the ideal spot for a get away. I don't know if it was the ambiance but little man broke up our "bredren an' bredren" flex when he asked me to take a walk with him.......inside me turned but I am a courteous bitch so I obliged.

We went into the garden and he went on and on about what he does, what he has, how he believes in taking care of a woman fully.......I was offended....at least get to know me before you try to get into my panty with promises of "support"......what's up with that. A really suh it stay out deh now? I have been caught up for a while in relationships and all of my extra relationship dabblings have been just about that, dabbling and letting go, so I had no clue that the world did a run like that now. It sticky out deh...bad, bad if a really suh. Worse when it turns out that it seemed like that was all it took for his other dates to give in, cause he had no conversation left when I told him I fully believed in a woman working for what she wants and that her partner was merely a fall back option.......I am a proud girl, I told him, so taking money from men wasn't one of my strongest talents. After that he was silent for the rest of the walk. I tried as best I could to keep the dialogue going but eventually we both agreed to rejoin the others....Hooray.

He was quiet for most of the trip back to Kingston, and I pretended to be asleep........I thought about Boogie for the most part and wondered what he was up to and that I could have been up to so much more with him. A suh it guh though.